Well not sure what happened, but I went into safe mode and could see one as the display adapter and the other one was in the "other devices" category. So I went back in to a normal boot, and I could finally see it and update...
I ran everest and it recognizes 2 of em.
Display:
Video Adapter NVIDIA GeForce 8700M GT (512 MB)
Video Adapter NVIDIA GeForce 8700M GT (512 MB)
Monitor Plug and Play Monitor [NoDB]
but in the windows devices it...
Does the Non SLI have a "dummy" cage in place of where the other core should be? I can distinctly see 3 fan cages in the back. maybe its an empty cage though