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Is the guy in the green/black t-shirt trying to get out of the way?

I wouldn't want her to fall on me either!

24 out of 26 on yesterday's calc quiz! ALRIGHT!

Thanks much Buck. Tutors and quizzes from last year really helped me out on this one. Time to start studying for next week's test now.

Well, I dropped the news on my folks yesterday. The old man got me stirred up with the self righteous indignation. He's a sr vp for a pharmaceutical company, and will not be content until, no matter the consequence, I hold an equivalent position. The thing is, I do quite well, and but am not content (borderline miserable) in my current position. The move would be lateral, with limited upward mobility, and again, really improve our quality of life. I mean shit, how much is enough? Unfortunately, my mother is stuck right in the middle of all this....

Needless to say, the whole conversation went over like a fart in church.

Sorry for the rant guys - but it's eatin' me up.

Congrats on the quiz, BFisch!

And, Buck ... you ultimately have to do what is best for you and your family. Parents sometimes have to take a backseat in this type of decision.

Hey ... we weren't happy when the oldest daughter gave up her position as a school Principal to go back to teaching ... to spend more time with her kids. But, it was her decision, and she seems quite happy with it. We got over it.

Thanks again Shazz. There's alot more involved than just the move. The discussion just uncorked alot of frustration from the past few years.

The main issue is with my father. A bit of a selfish person, he's 'guilted' my mother into staying home on multiple occasions when she wanted to come out to see the grand kids. Said he didn't feel like making the trip(s), insinuating she should stay home as well. My feeling...enjoy life while you're still healthy.

I thought that when I reached 40, things would get easier with them. I just have to let it go...

morning guys

hope things work out Buck. I've been going through some tough times too. Sometimes I feel better then I'm doing something I really like to do, like go for a run or watch the Red Sox. Keep your head up and let me know if you need anything. We're a community together.

Morning Everyone!

Sorry for the family troubles Buck.
As Shazza said, do what is best for you and your family.

Sorry to hear this Buck, but your first priority is to your family and yourself. Nobody wishes on their death bed that they'd spent a little more time at the office...

I had a big falling out with my father years ago over business, it's not worth trying to make their generation happy. Don't know what the hell happened to them but they seem to all have read too much Ayn Rand...

Take care of yourself and your family's happiness and your life will always be blessed.

Hello AW. It's been a little while since I've posted-Really busy with AF tests. The final exam on oscillators, amplifiers and wave generating circuits was today and I passed. *whew!* Now it's on to Digital Circuitry starting Monday, so I have a free weekend to relax for just a bit and get caught up on NBF life.

Bummer...

This reminds me of when I was diagnosed with cancer. I only had one surgery in my life previous to the cancer, it was my appendix. Woke up the first day of summer after graduating high school, and I was to report to my father's business for my summer job before heading off to college. Couldn't stand up straight due to the pain, and my parents both accused me of faking it so I didn't have to go to work. Ended up driving myself to the hospital, and was immediately rushed into the emergency room, my appendix burst during the operation. They never apologized for not believing me, and of course never examined their view of their son due to their potentially life threatening mistake. My dad ended up happy though, as he had dual insurance policies on me, one through his business, and one through the family, and he ended up profiting from the surgery. Still brags about that, so I guess to them fraud is a virtue. My mother recently argued with my wife that I never had my appendix taken out... Go figure.

I didn't let my parents know about my cancer situation until I was out of the hospital after the emergency resection and a week of recuperation. Due to my history with them, obviously they weren't the first people I thought of when dealing with surgery... lol...

When I did get home, I let them know. Their response was to tell me if I wanted to hurt them, I succeded. That's it. No, "are you okay" or anything. Of course, when you're recovering from cancer surgery, and wondering if the cancer spread, and whether or not you're going to need radiation or chemotherapy, it's nice to get support from your family...

Oh, and when my wife told my mother I was looking at 8 months of chemo, at approximately $2400 a week for treatments and fees, they said they wanted to help. Despite just having inherited seven figures from my grandfather's estate, they sent a set of bath towels. Some people of their generation are completely self absorbed, and the only care they show their children is to care how their children will reflect upon them. It's really quite sad...

I don't know if your dad is like mine, but for some reason my parents see men as providers, nothing more. Though I'm sure (?) in some way they do care, they're unable or unwilling to convey their feelings to either my brother or me. They can be nice to my nieces, but of course my brother and my opinion of what's nice is clearly pretty low when it comes to them. Things have changed since their generation, and being a part of your children's life, and your wife's should be priority number one. Sounds like you get that or you wouldn't be in conflict.

Life changes are always disruptive, good luck with your situation, and good luck reaching some sort of compromise with your parents. Hopefully what you're going through will help you avoid these kinds of conflicts with your kids when they get older...

Hammer, You have been through an awful lot. I truly hope that the cancer is completely gone and that you can go forward in life without further maladies.

@ Buck: I sincerely hope that your situation improves and that you will find the balance and harmony that you need.

That also applies to everyone here, so please know that there is someone in Biloxi MS is rooting for each and everyone of you out there.

Somebody is lurking, and you know who you are.

By the way, thanks.

And here I am complaining about school. Hammer, you never cease to astound me. *Takes a step back and has a hard look at things*

BFisch, don't worry about it- Hammer is great at putting things into prospective. This is what makes him such a sage around these parts.

Thanks mb. I actually think I've been pretty blessed so I'm reluctant to talk about this kind of stuff.

I think it's human nature to focus on our own issues in a bit of a vaccuum. During treatment though, I dealt with people that had much more difficult situations, both personal and physical, so overall I actually think I've been pretty lucky...

It's frustrating that a lot of people don't see what they have until it's almost lost. I hope Buck's dad realizes how lucky he is to have kids and grandkids and can get over whatever his issue is with Buck's decision.

As for the cancer, it's been three and a half years now, all my quarterly tests are coming back normal, so it looks like my cancer was caught in time. Another year and a half of clean blood tests and ct scans, and I'll be oficially "cured".