Thank you my finest verse
Anywho, seriously - How Important is this to you??? That is the question.
Dealing with anything having to do with women you have to pass thru the "Zone of Discomfort" from getting laid to getting an upgraded laptop you have to go through that zone.
Setting YOUR ground rules early in the relationship is critical, it's set her expectations of what you will and will not tolerate, once she gets used to this, she will know how far you can be pushed before the man(cro-magnon maybe) will come out and put his foot down.
Men in general do not like to be uncomfortable and are lazy, and will let women, walk all over them. Anyway unless I start getting paid for this advice, Nuff Said.
Go and talk to her but be reasonably firm, and have your reasoning and rebuttals ready. Get what you wan't i'm sure you have made great sacrifices for both your wife and your kids, to more than justify getting your way this once.
Originally Posted by PTR
Thanks for all the advice. I haven't laughed so hard in a while.
I especially liked Milkman's comments about the balls in the jar - just wait until you're in my shoes, my friend (married, approaching 40, and kids) - priorities change, and you learn to value harmony above a lot of other things.
G-Omaha, I think you're right about the grief factor, especially if I did it on the QT. She's not stupid, and the thought of trying to explain it afterwards is truly a frightening prospect.
Best advice - talk to her about it (didn't Billy Joel say something like that - and look where it got him?). I'll do it and report back.