Answering my own post.
The drivers that came with bluetooth were version 1.3.?.7 (dont remember the ?). These have a USB icon in device mangler. When I try to see the mouse in bluetooth neighborhood, it shows as a PDA icon with a question mark superimposed over it.
I did some google searching and found the following
http://talknotebooks.com/showthread.php?t=9896
and this had a hack for installing 1.4.2.8 (at least that is what shows in device mangler). Also the icon is now it's own blue tooth device instead of under the usb (Universial serial bus controllers) in device mangler. When I went into bluetooth neighborhood, the mouse show as a mouse this time and after playing around and pressing the connect button and going through the wizard nice and slow to let things sync up, the mouse finally connected. It shows a weak signal when I pull up his connection dialog and the mouse is a bit shaky at best. Maybe I need to put the grey wire to the bt mini usb module instead o having both antenna wires on my miniPCI 54g card.
Is that what yall had to do to get this to work. Doesn't seem very intuitive to me. Maybe someone knows where some better drivers are. The install on these drivers was far from smooth. The first time around I got license dialogs and such saying my bluetooth isn't licensed for this or something like that. Plus the files in the patched zip file go in two places (the dll in windows\system32, by renaming the old one and rebooting, then the exes in the Program Files\WIDCOMM\... folder after ending the tray process.
This had too much playing to get it to work, and the driver that come with it install pretty easy, but the mouse just don't work.