In the animal world mating is all about sending and receiving signs. Could be the lush colours of your plumage, the right warble in your voice or even that splash of musky pheromone juice on your fur!
Well truth be known, humans aren't all that different to animals, I know we try hard to persuade ourselves that we are unique and that our capacity to rationalise the world sets us miles apart but it's all academic...
The point is, find your animal equivalent:
are you
-the broad-shouldered footballing bear type?
-the quiet and shy mouse type?
-the cunning fox type?
-the ruthless snake type?
-or the full on elephant here I come on a stampede type?
In any case forget your laptop and identify your animal dynamic then go along to the cafe and embody that image. You'll see that in the space of a few minutes you will have singled out the attracted from the disturbed and all you'll have to do is pick the right mate for your needs.

Good luck and happy hunting...